Control. Some of us have it but misuse it. Some of us don’t have it but want it. Some of us have opportunities to control but choose to let someone else run the show.
How many times in your life have you failed to take control of situations you could have managed? Are there scenarios now in your career and your personal life that would allow you to take greater control? Are you willing to step up and take control and the responsibility that goes with it? Are you willing to risk collateral damage (hurt feelings, strained relationships, etc.) because you are the one who takes charge of a situation and makes tough decisions?
How many times have you sought control and not had it granted? Is there a situation now in your work or personal life that you would like to control but have not been able to gain control?
How many times have you retained control when you should have shared it? Do you tend to micromanage family members or those who work for you? Is it because your family members/workers are not competent enough to make decisions? Or is it because you just prefer to be the one in control?
Micromanagers, in my experience, negatively affect their own productivity as well as those they micromanage. By giving or sharing control, a micromanager frees up his/her own time and mental capacity to get other things done.
The pursuit of control and the effort to retain control determines many of the actions we take in our daily lives. Likewise, the failure to take control in those times we should step up can have long lasting effects.
Take a moment this week to evaluate your own opportunities to control your destiny. The choices you make now can impact your future.
When you are unable to control circumstances, this famous prayer may help: God, grant me the serenity to accept the things I cannot change, the courage to change the things I can and the wisdom to know the difference.